According to a recent “Atlantic Monthly” article, not only are there more singles than ever in history, but

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(according to this article) dating and mating have never been tougher especially for women.

I asked my friend and relationship expert, Carol Allen, for her thoughts on this topic and to share with you a remarkable new series she has created on “what men want.” Here’s whatshe has to say and a preview to what she has discovered on this topic:

In terms of romantic opportunities, it’s more of a “man’s world” than ever.

You see, women are doing extremely well – more are graduating from college, medical school, and law school thanmen these days. And male-dominated fields, like construction, manufacturing, and finance, have been hit hardest by the economic woes, so women are now often making more money than the men they’re meeting, too.

But we still typically want a man who is “taller, richer, smarter.” So there are more great women all vying for the same (shrinking) pool of quality men.

Also, while the trend of internet dating has given both men and women unprecedented access to each other (no longer do you have to rely on introductions from friends, or chance encounters at the gym or grocery store with that hot stranger), it’s created a false sense of abundance, causing many singles to have ridiculous standards.

Matchmakers tell me they see this played out again and again everyone is so sure they can “have it all” in a mate, they quickly disqualify anyone for the smallest thing: one misstep (food in your teeth, off-color remark, seeming case of nerves) and that great guy or gal you met is G-O-N-E.

So you’d better know what you’re doing, to be sure you don’t scare off that special someone.

You see, soulmates don’t always recognize each other right away. While couples like Arielle and Brian knew instantly, that’s not always the case. I was just sure I wasn’t going to marry my husband of 14 years, until it hit me that he was the one seven years after I’d met him!

It can take time and shared experiences, to really GET how special someone is and how strongly you connect.

So be sure you know how to handle every step of the way, from the first meeting, to the first date, to the first time you get “up close and personal,” to negotiating how to join your lives.

Since women turn to me for answers, I decided to go straight to the source MEN. I’ve asked the 8 greatest male relationship experts in the world to reveal how to be the woman who stands out in a man’s mind, and just what to do and say at critical moments to tell him you’re the best woman he could possibly find.

It’s called “What Men Want” and it rocks because these men are geniuses who’ve worked with thousands of men for years, and don’t just share their opinions they share what they’ve learned from men of all walks of life, from all over the world.

You see, when you know how to give a man what he wants, you’ll get what you want.

And a soulmate relationship ensues.

Here is just a small sampling of the golden nuggets that come from these incredible men who are willing to reveal their innermost beliefs:

• The men said they were THRILLED when a woman made the first move, and that many men DO NOT love the chase as they’ve been hurt or rejected a lot!

• If you make men feel great about themselves, and that you truly care about them, they’ll WANT to commit. Being needy or clingy, bossy or pushy are the top reasons men withdraw.

• Thousands of men surveyed said what they want MOST from us in bed is an emotional connection!

• All of the experts insist that men want to fall in love as much as women do.

• Despite what you’ve heard, the men swear we SHOULDN’T be dating multiple guys if we really like one as many men find this a turn off, and become intimidated even if they’re strong and confident.

I encourage you to check out Carol’s program. Find out more about “What Men Want” right here.

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After Brian and I got married I discovered that “manifesting a soulmate” was the easy part.

The hard part was just beginning.

I was totally clueless about creating a great relationship. After 44 years of being single, I was used to having my own way (all of the time) and since I managed skip over having a “starter marriage” I had zero experience in “partnership.”

One day I found myself being particularly pushy.  I witnessed myself pointing my right index finger in Brian’s face (left hand on left hip) ragging him out about something…..and I was shocked!  OMG….what was I doing?

I quickly apologized and then in a flash of insight said to him, “the next time I get like this, and unfortunately there will be a next time, you have my permission to ask me “when did Sheila enter the room?” (Sheila is my brilliant, amazing, and some times overbearing Mom)

Brian instantly got it and said to me, “And the next time I am getting too patronizing, you can call me Wayne.” (his much beloved Dad.) This was the amazing beginning of our dedication to practicing Wabi Sabi Love in our relationship…a way to offset problems and allow in more love.

Now you may be thinking….what the heck is Wabi Sabi?

Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that honors all things old, worn, weathered, imperfect, and impermanent.  In fact, it seeks to find “beauty and perfection in the imperfections.”  For instance, if you had a large vase with a big crack down the middle of it, a Japanese art museum would put the vase on a pedestal and shine a spotlight on the crack!

My new book, Wabi Sabi Love shows you exactly how to see your partner in a whole new light, so you begin to appreciate, even celebrate  your partner’s imperfections. It transforms “tired” relationships so they feel new, fresh, and exciting-like you’re on your honeymoon again! AND….even if you are not yet with your soulmate, this is a skill worth learning now.

The best way to discover Wabi Sabi Love is through stories and fun, simple exercises, and that’s exactly what you’ll find in the book. Wabi SabiLove reveals secrets that create a passionate, joyful, and loving relationship.

If you are ready for more love, fun, harmony, and passion in your relationship, I encourage you to order my book today. It comes with several terrific free bonuses including audio workshops from John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong, guided practices, a higher love visioning video and more!

To More Love and Light in Your Relationship,

Arielle

P.S: You’ll be particularly inspired by the story on page 211, which shows how Michelle Obama accomplished a Wabi Sabi Love transformation faster than she ever thought possible. You can do it too, but you have to buy the book to get this kind of transformation in your relationship, so hurry before the first printing sells out.

Get your copy of Wabi Sabi Love now!

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Do you know what the four most dreaded words are in most relationships?

“We need to talk . . .”

Those words strike fear into the heart of most people. We become frightened, thinking that we’ve done something terribly wrong, or that we are about to be dumped.

Can you avoid ever having to hear those words again in your relationship or at work?

That’s impossible to predict, but what you can do is learn and master the fine art of communication so that you can enjoy the kinds of relationships you yearn for — and deserve.

The famous therapist, Virginia Satir said, “Once a human being has arrived on this earth, communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships she makes with others and what happens to her in the world about her.”

My friends Paul and Layne Cutright have created a simple, easy and fun communication technique they call “Heart to Heart Talks” -– a powerful way to create more trust, honesty and intimacy that sets the stage for having good conversations when the going gets tough

. And, equally important, the kind of deep, soulful communication that keeps the heart fires burning and the work environment a place you look forward to going to.

When you learn all four of the different Heart to Heart Talks – Discovery, Nurturing, Clearing and Affirming — you will feel confident (and be competent) to handle whatever may come up in your relationships.

Now, I’ve seen too many people wait until they are in a relationship before they take steps to actually learn the skills necessary to be successful. Then, sadly, it is often too late.

The Roman philosopher Seneca sagely said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

Paul and Layne have taught thousands of people how to use Heart to Heart Talks to consciously create more open, authentic and heart-centered relationships, both in their personal lives and professional lives.

The Cutrights have been in a romantic and professional/creative partnership for 34 years and they credit Heart to Heart Talks as the foundation of their long-lived success. Heart to Heart Talks is a result of their lifelong experiment in keeping the love alive.

They are offering readers of this newsletter a special program that includes their book, Straight From the Heart, along with over six hours of training in an accompanying audio program in which they model each of the four kinds of Heart to Heart Talks and coach participants in a variety of real life relationship issues and situations.

So, if you’d like to learn some uncommon secrets and strategies for successful relationships of all kinds, go ahead and check this out: paulandlayne.com

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I completed writing my eighth book and I’m feeling a mixture of elation and fulfillment while I am also present to a sense of ease and grace. I began the process one year ago with the writing of the book proposal.

At that time I knew the title and I had a broad idea of what the book would be about but I didn’t have any confidence that I could actually write it.

Writing The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction was rather effortless because it only required that I remember the sequence and details of the steps I took to manifest Brian. All of the material already existed in my memory and in my product www.soulmatekit.com.

I was about to tackle a subject that had never been written about before and I would need to reveal deeply personal things about my relationship with Brian to make the book authentic and believable. Yikes!

The book, entitled Wabi Sabi Love: Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, reveals that Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that finds beauty and perfection in imperfection.

Wabi Sabi Love is the art and practice of loving the imperfections in ourselves and in our partner. It is not mere acceptance or denial of the things that may annoy us or even drive us crazy but rather a deep and profound appreciation for the uniqueness of each other.

As I began to write the book proposal I found myself frozen at the prospect of sharing my thoughts about this obscure art form and layering it into the world of relationship and marriage. Even though I had personally practiced Wabi Sabi in my life for decades, no one I knew had even heard of it. So, I asked myself a very important question:

What do I need to do to manifest a beautiful book that will be coded with love and wisdom? A book that offers encouragement to couples?

My inner guidance gave me this answer: Find a way to believe you were born to write this book and create a support team to help you.

And that is exactly what I did. I went online to do some research on Wabi Sabi which led me to an article on the subject by Robin Rice www.bewhoyouare.com , who I then immediately contacted. It turned out that not only is Robin well versed in Wabi Sabi, she has a soulmate relationship and she is a coach!

Within a few sessions I was well on my way to knowing and believing I was meant to write this book. Next I enrolled my husband Brian to be one of my editors on the book and asked my brilliant sister Debbie to provide guidance. Brian then reminded me that my friend, author Christine Hohlbaum, also in a soulmate marriage, www.christine.presskit247.com would be a perfect freelance editor to work with and thus my support team took shape.

Harper One (publisher of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction ) bought the proposal and gave me 10 months to deliver the book. (Right now the publication date is set for January 2012 ­ more than year away.)

Early on I decided to write 500 words a day, 5 days a week. Usually I write in the early evening after dinner and on the weekends. I also put a sign on my desk with the name of the book and these words “Let It Be Easy”.

Each day when I sat down to write I would do a short feelingization and then ask myself, what is the next step? Sometimes I would pick up the phone and call a friend and tell them what I was writing about and ask if they knew anyone with a great marriage that I could contact for a possible “Wabi Sabi Story”, or, I would Google a particular word or person and generally whatever was “next” would make itself known.

Manifesting this book was fun, creative, challenging at moments and ultimately very gratifying. Whether it’s a new job, a new love, or a new book, the steps of manifestation are always the same:

1) Have clarity in your intention.

2) Believe and trust you can achieve it.

3) Go into action.

What step can you take today to begin make one of your dreams come true?

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Have you ever been or are you currently in a long-distance relationship? How’s that working for you? Probably not great.

Long-distance relationships are fact of life for many of the estimated 4 million married couples that are living apart from each other, often because one of them has a job far from home.

This weekend we went to see the new Drew Barrymore film, GOING THE DISTANCE. It’s a laugh-out-loud romantic comedy about a couple struggling to make a relationship work when he lives in NYC and she lives in San Francisco.

Garrett (played by Justin Long), is a low-level record-company executive. He meets Drew Barrymore’s character, Erin, while she is interning for a summer at a top New York newspaper. A late bloomer in her early 30s, Erin had once given up everything for romance and was now committed to putting her career first.

They meet at a bar and Erin readily tells Garrett she is not looking to get “involved” and yet chemistry ignites and they enjoy a six-week whirlwind romance before she returns to school at Stanford. While the lovers decide to try to make their cross-country romance work with the help of Skype and cell phones, as with most long-distance relationships, trust begins to break down.

They soon discover that seeing each other once every three months just isn’t enough, and phone sex just doesn’t do it for either of them. I won’t spoil the ending for you but here’s what I can tell you: Skype is great and a virtual hug is never as satisfying as the real thing.

When you are creating your soulmate wish list it’s REALLY IMPORTANT to include on your list WHERE you want to live if you already LOVE where you live. (If you are a free spirit and willing to move anywhere, this doesn’t apply to you.)

As many of you already know, I believe the top two items on everyone’s soulmate wish list need to be the same:

#1 ­ My soulmate is open, willing and available for a long-term, committed, monogamous (add straight or gay) marriage (or partnership if you don’t desire to be married.)

#2. ­ My soulmate lives within ___ miles of me or is willing to move to be with me.

Then add in the traits and qualities of your desired soulmate and descriptions of your life together that will make your heart sing. And, you just might want to add in: My soulmate loves to take me to see romantic comedy films.  Wink. Wink.

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Even though I’m proud of the work I do, I’m the first to recognize that there are a bunch of other relationship experts with unique and powerful messages.

Today, I want to introduce you to one of my favorites. His name is Evan Marc Katz.

If you haven’t already heard of him, he’s the author of two books about dating, and has appeared on the Today Show, the Early Show, the Tyra Banks, Rachael Ray, and so on. But that’s not why I’m telling you about him.

The reason I want you to get to know Evan Marc Katz is this: He is the only male dating coach I know who works exclusively with smart, strong, successful women.

His entire job is spent helping women just like you – the creme de la creme ­ understand and connect with men. His new book, “Why He Disappeared: the Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever” is phenomenal. Really.

Here’s something he wrote which blew me away. I trust you’ll agree:

You Don’t Attract the Wrong Men. You ACCEPT The Wrong Men. What happens when you find yourself incredibly attracted to a man? Well, there’s the feeling of chemistry and everything that comes along with it – the obsessive highs that come with wanting to be with him, the joy of feeling incredibly connected, and, what you may forget, the willful blindness that allows you to overlook his flaws.

That’s one of the most miraculous things about chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad. Which is why you can have incredible chemistry and end up in a TERRIBLE relationship, where he doesn’t call you, doesn’t sleep with you, doesn’t compliment you, doesn’t make you feel safe, and doesn’t commit to you.

But you stick around because of how strong your rare FEELINGS are. You’ve now discovered the real secret to why you’re in dead end relationships:

You don’t attract the wrong men, you accept the wrong men.

If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitment-phobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating, drinking, mooching or flaking. Your job is to leave.

You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING their bad behavior… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain.

Amen.

Evan is offering a ton of high-quality bonuses to go with his fascinating take on the male mind. Along with his eBook and a 2 hr audio version of the same material, Evan is going to give you this:

Why He Disappeared Online – 30 page eBook and 36-minute audio, helping you understand the 3 main reasons that men don’t follow through with you.

Audio Interview on the difference between chemistry and compatibility, the difference between loving someone and being “in love”, and which flaws you should and should not overlook in men:

Audio Interview on what men really think of women who ask them out, the 2 things that cause men to end relationships every time, and how to find a partner who is more compatible.

Video Interview with Carol Allen – emotional I.Q., having realistic expectations, the false clarity of passion, being a “yes” woman, choosing character over charisma, and what men truly want in a partner.

And best of all, Evan offers a one-year money back guarantee if you don¹t love his book, he’ll refund your money. Definitely worth checking out!

www.evanmarckatz.com

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Manifesting becomes effortless when you have a clear intention that resonates in every cell of your body. This week allow yourself to remember why it is that you desire a soulmate.

Consider how you, and your life, will be more enriched when you are sharing your daily life with your beloved.

What is that you have to offer your soulmate?

What is it that you most want to share with them?

What is it that you most seek from the relationship?

As you ponder these questions allow yourself to have an experience of present moment awareness and really imagine yourself with these questions answered.  Use this moment to feel what it feels like to be sharing your life, right now, with your soulmate.

Make this a daily practice. I can’t emphasize how important it is to make your soulmate attraction plan a DAILY PRACTICE.  As you continue to focus your intention and attention on your heart’s desire, knowing that what you’ve asked for is ALREADY yours, you magnetize it to you.

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