After Brian and I got married I discovered that “manifesting a soulmate” was the easy part.

The hard part was just beginning.

I was totally clueless about creating a great relationship. After 44 years of being single, I was used to having my own way (all of the time) and since I managed skip over having a “starter marriage” I had zero experience in “partnership.”

One day I found myself being particularly pushy.  I witnessed myself pointing my right index finger in Brian’s face (left hand on left hip) ragging him out about something…..and I was shocked!  OMG….what was I doing?

I quickly apologized and then in a flash of insight said to him, “the next time I get like this, and unfortunately there will be a next time, you have my permission to ask me “when did Sheila enter the room?” (Sheila is my brilliant, amazing, and some times overbearing Mom)

Brian instantly got it and said to me, “And the next time I am getting too patronizing, you can call me Wayne.” (his much beloved Dad.) This was the amazing beginning of our dedication to practicing Wabi Sabi Love in our relationship…a way to offset problems and allow in more love.

Now you may be thinking….what the heck is Wabi Sabi?

Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that honors all things old, worn, weathered, imperfect, and impermanent.  In fact, it seeks to find “beauty and perfection in the imperfections.”  For instance, if you had a large vase with a big crack down the middle of it, a Japanese art museum would put the vase on a pedestal and shine a spotlight on the crack!

My new book, Wabi Sabi Love shows you exactly how to see your partner in a whole new light, so you begin to appreciate, even celebrate  your partner’s imperfections. It transforms “tired” relationships so they feel new, fresh, and exciting-like you’re on your honeymoon again! AND….even if you are not yet with your soulmate, this is a skill worth learning now.

The best way to discover Wabi Sabi Love is through stories and fun, simple exercises, and that’s exactly what you’ll find in the book. Wabi SabiLove reveals secrets that create a passionate, joyful, and loving relationship.

If you are ready for more love, fun, harmony, and passion in your relationship, I encourage you to order my book today. It comes with several terrific free bonuses including audio workshops from John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong, guided practices, a higher love visioning video and more!

To More Love and Light in Your Relationship,

Arielle

P.S: You’ll be particularly inspired by the story on page 211, which shows how Michelle Obama accomplished a Wabi Sabi Love transformation faster than she ever thought possible. You can do it too, but you have to buy the book to get this kind of transformation in your relationship, so hurry before the first printing sells out.

Get your copy of Wabi Sabi Love now!

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Make-up sex. Break up sex. Mercy sex. Drive by sex. It’s easy sex. I just gotta have some sex. It’s better than nothing sex. Friends with benefits sex. Maybe this time it will be different sex.

Sound familiar?

These are just a few of the countless reasons why we might fall into bed with an Ex-lover. Unless a miracle has occurred, and your Ex has suddenly become your perfect right partner, having sex with your Ex is a mistake.

Why?

As soon as you get close enough to smell them, your brain chemistry is triggered, memories come flooding back and you begin to re-attach.

And for women, it’s even worse.

Ladies, when you have sex with an Ex, your brain releases the bonding hormone oxytocin and that could cause you to fall in love with them all over again.

If these aren’t enough good reasons not to do it, here’s the most important one: having sex with your Ex reconnects you to them energetically and it may block your future soulmate from coming in.

I believe that having random, casual sex with your Ex (or anyone else) sends a message to the Universe that you don’t really believe or trust that your soulmate is on the way.

You are not “living as if” when you do this.

As you are “savoring the waiting” of this time before the “One” arrives discover the sensual joys of self-pleasure. Imagine and feel (and yes even fantasize) that you are now physically WITH your soulmate and put your focus on him or her. While you don’t know what they look like you can certainly conjure up what it will feel like to be with them.

Think of it this way, if you had a 100% guarantee that your soulmate was arriving in 72 hours would you be having casual sex with someone else?

Curious about Imperfect Relationships that still create True Love?  Click here to download the first chapter of my new book, Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships:  Wabi Sabi Love

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Twenty years ago I came across an art magazine article with a striking black and white photograph of a large Asian urn sitting on a pedestal, with a long crooked crack down the middle. The crack was highlighted by gallery lighting! Huh? It did not compute. The headline read “The Art of Wabi Sabi.”

Curious, I began reading about this exotic sounding phrase. Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese art form of finding perfection and beauty in imperfection. The urn in the photograph was, in the world of Wabi Sabi, even more beautiful and valued because of the crack, because of its imperfection.

It would take me another few years to realize the true significance of what I read in that article two decades prior…that Wabi Sabi is the answer to the universal dilemma and struggle of living and ultimately loving another person! (A flawed person, I might add, but aren’t we all?).

Wabi Sabi is the answer to finding beauty and grace in things modest, humble, and unconventional. It is the way to finding these things even in the ordinary. Simply put: Wabi Sabi holds the key to everlasting love.

The truth of how this art form relates to soulmate love didn’t come right away. Still, the impact of seeing Wabi Sabi as it related to beauty and life was immediate for me. So many things began to make sense.

I mean, I knew I wasn’t perfect and wasn’t capable of perfection, but I had never entertained the idea that not only should I NOT strive for perfection, but that my imperfection is and was in its own way more valuable than perfection itself. In terms of my own personal growth and wisdom-seeking, this was a huge emotional and spiritual payday!

I decided then and there to become a Wabi Sabi artisan.

I found it relatively easy to practice Wabi Sabi. I could choose to enjoy and appreciate the little quirks and imperfections of my friends, clients, and employees. Or, I could choose to eliminate them from my daily life altogether.

Once I manifested Brian—my soulmate—I wanted to see if two people could apply and integrate the deeper principles of Wabi Sabi into their relationship, while still preserving the juicy joy and magic that brought them together.

This became my mission and also the topic of my next book WABI SABI LOVE: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships (HarperOne, January 2012)

I can’t wait to share more about Wabi Sabi Love in the coming month’s. I’ve just launched a new website and blog about Wabi Sabi Love. Please visit and you can download chapter one for free and see if you are tempted to become a Wabi Sabi Love artisan too.

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I completed writing my eighth book and I’m feeling a mixture of elation and fulfillment while I am also present to a sense of ease and grace. I began the process one year ago with the writing of the book proposal.

At that time I knew the title and I had a broad idea of what the book would be about but I didn’t have any confidence that I could actually write it.

Writing The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction was rather effortless because it only required that I remember the sequence and details of the steps I took to manifest Brian. All of the material already existed in my memory and in my product www.soulmatekit.com.

I was about to tackle a subject that had never been written about before and I would need to reveal deeply personal things about my relationship with Brian to make the book authentic and believable. Yikes!

The book, entitled Wabi Sabi Love: Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, reveals that Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that finds beauty and perfection in imperfection.

Wabi Sabi Love is the art and practice of loving the imperfections in ourselves and in our partner. It is not mere acceptance or denial of the things that may annoy us or even drive us crazy but rather a deep and profound appreciation for the uniqueness of each other.

As I began to write the book proposal I found myself frozen at the prospect of sharing my thoughts about this obscure art form and layering it into the world of relationship and marriage. Even though I had personally practiced Wabi Sabi in my life for decades, no one I knew had even heard of it. So, I asked myself a very important question:

What do I need to do to manifest a beautiful book that will be coded with love and wisdom? A book that offers encouragement to couples?

My inner guidance gave me this answer: Find a way to believe you were born to write this book and create a support team to help you.

And that is exactly what I did. I went online to do some research on Wabi Sabi which led me to an article on the subject by Robin Rice www.bewhoyouare.com , who I then immediately contacted. It turned out that not only is Robin well versed in Wabi Sabi, she has a soulmate relationship and she is a coach!

Within a few sessions I was well on my way to knowing and believing I was meant to write this book. Next I enrolled my husband Brian to be one of my editors on the book and asked my brilliant sister Debbie to provide guidance. Brian then reminded me that my friend, author Christine Hohlbaum, also in a soulmate marriage, www.christine.presskit247.com would be a perfect freelance editor to work with and thus my support team took shape.

Harper One (publisher of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction ) bought the proposal and gave me 10 months to deliver the book. (Right now the publication date is set for January 2012 ­ more than year away.)

Early on I decided to write 500 words a day, 5 days a week. Usually I write in the early evening after dinner and on the weekends. I also put a sign on my desk with the name of the book and these words “Let It Be Easy”.

Each day when I sat down to write I would do a short feelingization and then ask myself, what is the next step? Sometimes I would pick up the phone and call a friend and tell them what I was writing about and ask if they knew anyone with a great marriage that I could contact for a possible “Wabi Sabi Story”, or, I would Google a particular word or person and generally whatever was “next” would make itself known.

Manifesting this book was fun, creative, challenging at moments and ultimately very gratifying. Whether it’s a new job, a new love, or a new book, the steps of manifestation are always the same:

1) Have clarity in your intention.

2) Believe and trust you can achieve it.

3) Go into action.

What step can you take today to begin make one of your dreams come true?

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